Couples or Marriage Counselling
Why are we together? Most couples in long-term committed relationships will at some time find they are confronted with this very challenging question.
Coming into couples or marriage counselling is usually a sign that something more is wanted from the relationship. There is a keen awareness of something missing, disappearing, even if it is hard talking about it.
Restoring the relationship between couples is the primary goal. This is ultimately achieved not by learning to modulate feelings, but by making adequate space to get to deeper truths. More couples are harmed by the neglect of emotions than by a surplus of them. Emotions are both the language of intimacy and the glue for consensual and happy commitment.
In couples and marriage counselling, Alisa uses the techniques from Brian and Marcia Gleason’s “Exceptional Marriage” program. They are the authors of “Exceptional relationships” and “Going all the way”.
Exceptional Marriage techniques are used to help couples embody primary feelings they may resist because it feels too vulnerable and then identify the control pattern in the couple dynamic, e.g.
- Anger is used to intimidate
- Sorry is used to neutralise
- Tears are used to manipulate
- Love is used to smother
- Forgiveness is used to avoid conflict
These behaviours are used to avoid deeper connection with your partner because everything feels unsafe and vulnerable. Therapy will support the process of bringing more intimacy, vulnerability and honesty into your relationship.
Couples counselling session fee is $220 per hour.
Medicare or private health insurance rebates available for eligible clients.